Friday, October 14, 2005

Wedding Blues and Runaway Lovers


Wedding Blues could be frightening to would be couples as they fret over exchanging matrimonial vows and the life sentence of marriage. And these boggywoggy days that men are poking men from the rear and women are eating women right from the holes of their souls, BoggyWoggy is not surprised that the traditional marriage is in danger in the Western World. The news below is a very interesting boggywoggy love story on wedding blues.

More couples find traditional weddings just aren't up their alley

By: Joann Klimkiewicz

Source: Post-Tribune

The tacky bridesmaids' dresses, the packed church of relatives
stuffed, grudgingly, in all their finery. The corny wedding band, or,
worse yet, the twerpy disc jockey corralling the single women for the
hated bouquet toss.

When it came time for their nuptials, Kris and Rob Thompson wanted
none of it.

"We didn't want to do it in a traditional way just to do it a
traditional way," says Rob Thompson.

The couple, both 34, didn't want the exchange of their vows on stage
like a spectacle and they did not want to blindly follow a set of
rituals that held no meaning for them. They wanted a way to preserve
the reverence of the occasion in a private moment for themselves,
while still celebrating their wedded bliss with family and friends.

"We just wanted to do it our own way, put our own stamp on it," says
Kris Thompson.

So the couple eloped, marrying last New Year's Eve in a tiny chapel
where the only guest was their beloved dog, Henry.

For the reception, they wanted casual, quirky and fun -- nothing
extravagant, nothing too expensive.

And nothing, it seemed, fit that equation like an old-school bowling

Thus was born the Thompson Tournament of Love, held a few weeks ago at
a Simsbury, Conn., bowling alley. The bride wore denim, the groom
black Converse.

And the parents proudly greeted guests in customized bowling shirts.

"It turns the whole thing on its ear a little bit," Rob Thompson says.
"It's fun, it's goofy. There's definitely a total irreverence to our
approach. ... And then there's the pragmatic side of us that said,
'Why in God's name would we spend all this money ... to fill a church
for an hour?' "

As couples try to recapture the sanctity of an event whose meaning
gets buried in a sea of frilly white and lost in the frenzy of the
$72-billion wedding industry, more and more couples like the Thompsons
are shunning stodgy traditions in favor of personal twists.

Whether it is in the subtle detail of a baby-blue wedding dress or in
the grand statement of a themed costume party, wedding watchers say
couples are beginning to embrace the unconventional in an effort to
put their mark on what is perhaps the most cliched of milestone

"Brides and grooms don't want a cookie-cutter wedding," says Rosanna
McCollough, editor-in-chief of "As (people)
get married a little bit older these days ... I think they want to
express themselves in a different way. They've been to so many
weddings over the years and nobody wants their wedding blurred with
all the others."

Industry insiders like McCollough are seeing whimsical wedding details
that give a nod to the couple's personalities -- unconventional menus
of macaroni and cheese, McDonald's hamburgers or Southern fried
chicken, a la Britney Spears.

They're seeing an increase in destination weddings, where exotic
locations serve as backdrop for the momentous event -- and help weed
out the peripheral guests invited out of obligation.

They're hearing about gatherings like the Thompsons' that incorporate
group activities such as horseback riding or kayaking -- social
lubricants they say bring strangers together and talking better than
any cocktail can.

"You know when you go to a wedding and you're dreading who you have to
sit with? I always felt like I constantly got stuck at the table with
all the singles. And you're just sitting there, trying to make small
talk over this enormous (table) centerpiece," says Kris Thompson, a
West Hartford native. (Both copywriters living in Los Angeles, the
Thompsons brought the celebration back to Connecticut to be closer to
the bride's family).

The pair wanted an atmosphere of ease. Bowling teams became their
modern-day version of table assignments.

And at their kitschy August celebration at the Blue Fox Rock 'n Bowl,
the guests seemed to appreciate the effort.

"I think it's a great alternative way to go," says Mike Beach, leaning
against a bowling ball stand that doubled as a cocktail table. Serving
as a centerpiece was a single bowling pin paired with a two-toned
bowling shoe that sprouted a simple bouquet of flowers.

"People fit into a pattern and wind up doing the same thing all the
time," Beach says. "This is a great way to keep it loose."

About 125 family and friends milled about the 1960s-era alley,
shuffling around in rented bowling shoes and feasting on salmon and
roast pork loin.

The bride's version of a wedding dress: a white, vintage bowling shirt
reconstructed into a fitted tank top with a small, ruffled puff at the
back in a lighthearted nod to a gown's train. The groom wore a black
bow tie and a tuxedo shirt from JC Penney, his name embroidered,
bowling-style, at the corner.

The wedding cake: two levels of cupcakes crowned with a layer of white
cake, a plastic bride and groom topper flanked by tiny bowling balls
and pins. Then at 9 o'clock came the last words one would expect to
hear at a wedding reception.

"All right, everybody," a teen voice blared over the speakers, "it's
time to bowl!"

"I just think it's so cool," says Jacki Pass, aiming a plastic forkful
of pasta into her 2-year-old son Sam's mouth. "I like a casual
get-together and I think it's a nice, easy way to mingle with people.
I like that they're doing it their own way. I think more people should
do it their own way. Because the traditional is overrated."

McCollough, of, says she's "a sentimental gal"
and holds an appreciation for the traditional.

Still, she says, "it's fine to have an extremely whimsical event as
long as you two are very serious about the vows, as long as you keep
the sincerity of saying those words. Then everything else is just
decoration and you can make it be whatever you want it to be."

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